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The Mirror

The Mirror 
Edmund Burke 1729-1797,
Irish Philosopher
'I look in the mirror
And what do I see
A strange looking person
That cannot be me.
For I am much younger
And not nearly so fat
As that face in the mirror
I am looking at.
Oh, where are the mirrors
That I used to know
Like the ones which were
Made thirty years ago
Now all things have changed
And I'm sure you'll agree
Mirrors are not as good
As they used to be.
So never be concerned,
If wrinkles appear
For one thing I've learned
Which is very clear,
Should your complexion
Be less than perfection,
It is really the mirror
That needs correction.'
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Sciatic Pain is a Drag


Sciatic pain is drag - I know this from my own experience. I have experienced both acute and chronic sciatic pain in my life. After ignoring it and hoping it would go away for years, one day I finally realized that I had to do something about it!


Here are a few things that I have learned to help relieve sciatic pain: 


1. Honor the pain. This means stop doing things that accentuate the pain. Easier said than done for some of us, but essential to allow the body to heal. 


2. Explore gentle movement a few times a day. This means move the leg on the affected side in all directions slowly, in a range of motion that does not create pain. The tendency with severe pain is stop moving which limits circulation, and therefore healing. Be curious, sensitive and patient and explore how motion can be created that is not painful. With time, the range of non-painful motion increases. 


3. Try not to sit for too long at a time. Even if you need to set a little alarm to remind you to get up every 30 minutes - do it! Keeping the Qi flowing in through the meridians in the low back and hip helps relieve the pain.


4. Sitting with a wallet in your back pocket compresses the sciatic nerve - so move that wallet when sitting!


I hope you never have to experience sciatic pain, but if you do, give the above suggestions a try. In fact, I created an entire webinar about How to Relieve Sciatic Pain. You can register to watch it for free here.


Wishing you flowing Qi and abundant health,

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Cindy Black, L.Ac., LMT

Founder, Big Tree School of Natural Healing

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How to work with Depression

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Dear Inquirer,

Sometimes people ask me to write about special topics they feel confused or unhappy about.


I love it when that happens.


The other day an inquirer asked me to write about depression, and not really understanding why.


In some ways, most feelings start out without full explanation.

They envelope the body, course through our torso, our face feels hot, our stomach fluttery.


What does depression feel like?


I remember it well.


Like a huge volume dial has been turned down to one, where it was once at a ten, all around the heart. This quiet, dead feeling expanded down my arms and legs.


Tired, heavy, curled over in the gut, feeling like I couldn't stand up.


The word depression sounds like it feels.....pressed down deeeeep.


Long ago a therapist, or perhaps a workshop leader, said depression was anger or grief imploding inwards.


Trapped, stuck, flattened.


But I don't want to turn it outwards! That would result in raging at other people, or sobbing my eyes out, expressing how disturbing I find the world, acting crazy....right?


I can't just start FEELING right in front of everyone!


Can I?


If you find the very idea horrifying, there is a way to slow this process of uncovering and taking the pressure off the implosion slowly, one thought by one thought at a time.


Like easing the air out of a big blown up balloon.


Don't go thinking you'll have to identify 1480 thoughts before the depression lifts, that's just another depressing thought.


So here goes:


If your feeling of depression could talk and you set it in a chair, looking like a big lump of gray mottled nasty something, what would it say?


What are the ideas it has about what hurts, what feels painful, what you object to?

  • Life is difficult
  • I can't stand "x"
  • My work situation is "y"
  • My family life is unpleasant because "z"
  • What I really hate about life is "q"

Once you have that first idea, write why you think this thought. 


Find your proof.


Don't talk yourself out of the exercise and say it's not all that bad, you already know life is good, you were just kidding.


Pretend you're not kidding.


"Life is difficult".


Why? Make a list. Write what seems difficult about being alive here on planet earth.


See if you can make it personal, as in, what is difficult for YOU about being here.


If you give yourself only 15 minutes to write, give or take a few minutes, you will follow the breadcrumbs to what ails you, what you're believing and thinking at a deep level.


You will have one step on this dark journey taken, like driving on a foggy, foggy road with headlights on very slowly going 5 mph. It doesn't matter that you're moving so slowly, and it's so hard to see. You still see something.


You're moving.


Here's the good news: nothing stays the same.


It may feel like you've been depressed for months, years. But no feeling, not even joy, is full powered on 24/7.


Once you have one thought, the one on top, you can take it through inquiry.


Get someone to facilitate you. Write out your answers. Call me, Grace, and make an appointment for an individual session, I'd be honored to work with you.


Most of all, while you're exploring the darkness...let it stay there.


Don't try to push it away or turn on all the lights at once. If they're going to do that, they will in due time all by themselves.


Welcome the darkness, the depression. Have tea with it. It's hear for an important reason, with something significant to say.


You don't want to get rid of it too soon to understand its message.



Deep breath. Go. No expectations.

"It's good that it hurts. Pain is the signal that you're confused, that you're in a lie." ~ Byron Katie
Much love, 
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Living Kidney Donors Network

June 2014
Living Kidney Donors Network 
Could Presumed Consent Shorten the Waiting List?

Last month I wrote about the challenges of developing a compensation plan for living and/or deceased donors. 

Another idea on how to increase the number of deceased donors is to change the current system in the United States from "opt in" to an "opt out" system, This is also referred to as "presumed consent." In a presumed connect system, when a person dies it is assumed that their organs will be donated unless that person previously chose to opt out to being a donor. 

When discussing presumed connect systems, Spain is often referenced as having a successful presumed consent program. Spain has one of the highest rates of deceased organ donation. In Spain there are approximately 32 deceased donors per million people, while in the United States there are approximately 23. But the raw numbers don't tell the whole story.

Spain introduced presumed consent to combat the growing waiting lists for organ transplantation. Ten years after the introduction of presumed consent, there wasn't a significant increase in organ donation rates. What they discovered is that simply having a presumed consent program will not automatically increase deceased donor rates. If the next of kin refused to have their loved ones organs donated it didn't matter if you had a presumed consent policy or an opt in policy. You needed the cooperation of the family. 

What did make a difference is when Spain introduced a trained specialist, the "Donor Family Liaison," which they now call the "Donor Coordinator" into every hospital with an intensive care unit. Prior to having a trained "Donor Coordinator" their opt out system had the same problem as does our the opt in system. When family members were informed of the persons donation wishes some would object to their loved ones organ being donated. If family members objection could not be overcome donation would not occur, regardless of the policy.

Having a trained professional to explain organ donation to family member is what made the difference and results in Spain’s increased organ donation rates. These donor coordinators present organ donation as the normal practice and are there to explain any questions about organ donation to donor families.

Another challenge to developing a presumed consent policy in the United States is how important individual rights are viewed. Taking away one of these rights, even at the end of life would be difficult to implement. In Spain and many other countries with socialist programs policies that  benefit the country as a whole are easier to adopt. 

Compensating donors or changing transplant policies to presumed consent are very controversial in the United States and are not likely to be implemented any time soon. 

We've done an excellent job in educating the public about registering to be an organ and tissue donor. Millions of dollars are being spent by governmental agencies, private and nonprofit organizations to encourage people to register. While these efforts are commendable, and should be continued, increasing the number of deceased donor organs will not be enough to meet the current level of need. Even if all the organs from deceased donors were available, there would still not be enough to keep up with the demand.

Clearly, it makes sense to reallocate some of these resources to develop educational programs about living donation for those who need a kidney transplant. We also need to educate the general public about living donation. Not only is there a virtually unlimited supply of kidneys from living donors, it is the medically preferred option. A kidney from a living donor lasts on average twice as long as a kidney from a deceased donor and it is a safe, successful and cost-effective option. On the economic side, various studies show that transplanting someone who is on kidney dialysis saves a present value of between $250,000 and $1 million.

Increasing the number of living kidney donors is the only way to reduce the current 5+ year wait for a kidney transplant, and potentially eliminating the waiting list altogether. The solution is within us, the current living kidney donation model can be made more successful. 

Help for your Kidney Kampaign

Recently I received the following in an email: 
Per you recommendation, we started a FaceBook page and so far have had some success. We have had 2 people come forward and sign up for the initial evaluation.We don't want to dissuade the 2 donors who have initially signed up but don't want to stop the momentum on any other potential candidates in the event the initial 2 are not a match or able to go forward for health reasons. What could we write in one of our Tuesdays with.... updates to family members and friends?

Here's what you could write in an update:
We are excited to let you know that a few people have stepped up to be tested for ______. They have started the evaluation process. We’ve been encouraged to continue to look for others to be tested. Not everyone is approved. They might have a medical condition that precludes them from being a kidney donor. And some people might get approved but aren’t compatible. Also, there are times when more then one person is approved and one is a significantly better match than the other. So we are continuing to get the word out about ______ need.
If you would like to explore being a donor you could give me a call or contact the donor coordinator at the hospital. (Provide the contact info of the donor coordinator.)
Thanks for your continued support.

Tuesdays with... updates

In the short time since starting Tuesdays with...  updates we've had 120 requests to receive these weekly emails. Judy, our social media director has helped develop the past few updates. We've received great feedback on these and yes, Judy will continue writing updates. I know you'll like the one she wrote for next week. To learn more about Tuesdays with... click here.

LKDN Conference Calls

Do you have some questions about the donation process? Please join us for these conference calls. Even if you don't have a question to ask you'll learn from the questions being asked by others. Many are exchanging their email addresses because they are finding that they have common experiences and would like to hear how others are overcoming some of the challenges they have. Join us for the next conference call on June 9th at 8:00 PM Eastern, 7:00 PM Central and 5:00 PM Pacific time. The call in number is: 712-432-0390 When prompted, enter access code: 801922#

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